I’m obsessed with The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz Jr.
I first discovered this book 5 years ago while working at a Yogaworks Studio in Los Angeles. It was exactly what I was ready to learn at time and what I always come back to when I am not feeling 100% myself and I need a little push.
The Four Agreements are:
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Whenever something negative happens to me, whether it be a self-doubting thought or nothing is going my way, I immediately think of one agreement to help me deal. Life isn’t perfect and it isn’t meant to be. Without bad moments, we wouldn’t be so joyful for the good ones.
So, can we all agree to a good life? I can!